Recently, friends around me are announcing news for pregnancy, many of them are expecting for the Dog year. ? what trigger the wind for pregancy.
still, some friends of mine told me they are not prepared to have BB (either the husband or wife don't want), it can be any reasons......
I don't really have any comments on whether we should or should not have BB. But I do agree it is a family decision, that means both the husband and wife agree on the decision without regret. Let's share Derek & I 's experience.
When we first get married, we have not plan to have BB, there is no pressure. Always we put work/ friends and new life first. Until 2-3 years, we started to think if we want BB. At that time, Derek did not show any eager, and we are planning to move to Aust or start a business so we concluded that this is not the timing. At that time, we still don't think having BB is a must.
I remembered in one gathering, (Couple fellowship with outside speaker)around 2004, After a prayer, Derek suddenly told me that He has the feeling that it is time we should start to plan a BB. I really shock as I am not prepared and I still have many task to do......I just said keep praying and see as I id not have that feeling.
Finally, when we arrived to Australia, we were start to plan to pray to have BB but every thing were in preliminary stage. Then out of expectation, we have the BB within 1 month. I remembered the first test indicate I was pregnant. I rushed to Derek and we prayed. We knew we were not prepare to be parents yet(even don't know how to be parents)but We felt the calm & peace from God that He will guide us.
Being parents are not only responsility, we always count how many we have or we need to deliver and make us stop thinking having BB.
But I learn from God that it is not what we have or proud of that make us to be his son/ girls. It is really because our insuffiency that make us know the grace of GOD. Same for having a BB is not because we are very responsible and own many things, rather BB is the mean for us to learn to be responsbile and LOVE.
So the couple not yet come to conclusion to have BB or not, then need more pray together. God will show us his way and help us to plan because having BB or not is really not determine only by the husband & wife. I saw many people in Aust go for IVF for having BB still not sucessful and with great distress. So having BB is really a gift from GOD.
About is only my personal opinion.
I have a recent pic, really big & huge (quite like a ball, my waist line now is 42 inches).
3 comments:
Thank you. Your sharing means a lot to me...
Yes, it is a matter of compromise and must be a decision that comes from mutual understanding. But the wind of pregancy is really blowing like a stereotype.
Parental love is a unique kind of love. But if is also a lifestyle, why the alternative seems so unconvincing?
And you. Wa wa wa! What a big tummy!!!
Your sharing recalls me the day when I first felt sick lying on my bed and puzzling if I get pregnant, I had a great and sudden fear. I don't want to change my way of living even though having BB is in my plan. To be mother, for me, psycho.preparation is a must cos at least pregnancy period is not easy to go. Just following the wind will get suffering at last.
Ip Kar
"No return and no regret"
Yes. Parent's life is very different from those without kids but you will be pleased to experience it when you think of your tiny little creature sent by God. Tai and I call Tintin many times a day, whether with or without Tintin by our side. Have you determined the name of your angel?
I remember I has the same waist size before the day I gave birth to Tintin.
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